Quick answer: If a teenager tells you they are having suicidal thoughts, take it seriously, thank them, and tell them you need to involve a trusted adult to keep them safe. Then speak to the parents privately and calmly: start with care for the child, share what you observed without blame, explain that this is a health issue, and agree on next steps together, including a visit to a health professional. If the teen is in immediate danger, call 112 first. Parents can call 0800 678 678 for guidance.

A common dilemma

Teachers, school counsellors, youth leaders and child protection workers often face the same situation. A teenager trusts them enough to share suicidal thoughts. The adult listens and supports them, but knows the young person needs stronger support at home. The hard part is approaching the parents without making them feel blamed, scared or defensive, while still making them understand how serious it is.

Many adults who struggled as teenagers say the same thing looking back: "I wish my parents had known." Young people often hide their pain because they fear how parents will react. But not every young person is strong enough to survive it alone. Parents need to know.

Why involving parents matters

Suicide is the third leading cause of death among 15 to 29 year olds worldwide (WHO, 2021 estimates). Ghana's Mental Health Authority reports that people aged 16 to 35 are the most affected in the country (Citi Newsroom). Teens depend on adults for transport, money and consent for care, so parents are usually central to getting help.

Step 1: Respond to the teen first

  • Believe them and thank them. "I'm really glad you told me."
  • Ask directly. "Are you thinking about ending your life? Have you thought about how?" Research with over 2,000 high school students found asking does not increase suicidal thoughts (Psychiatric News), and a 2025 study found the same for children aged 8 to 12 (Hennefield et al.).
  • Do not promise secrecy. Say: "I care about you too much to keep this to myself. Let's decide together who we tell and how."
  • Ask what they fear. If they fear anger, punishment or abuse at home, factor that in (see below).
  • If there is immediate danger, stay with them and call 112 or go to the nearest hospital.

Step 2: Prepare for the parent conversation

  • Choose a private, calm setting. Invite the teen to join if they want to.
  • Plan your first sentence. Lead with care, not alarm.
  • Have next steps ready: the helpline 0800 678 678, the nearest health centre or school counsellor, and a safety plan template.

Step 3: What to say to parents

  1. Open with shared care. "I asked to meet because I care about Kofi, and I know you do too."
  2. Share facts, not judgement. "He told me he has been having thoughts of not wanting to live. I've also noticed he's withdrawn from friends."
  3. Remove blame. Parents often blame themselves, but it is usually not their fault. Explain that many things can contribute: school pressure, friends, loss, bullying, family changes or depression itself.
  4. Name it as a health issue. "This is like any serious health problem. It needs attention now, and young people can recover."
  5. Make a plan together. Agree on a health visit this week, who will stay close to the teen, and making the home safer.
  6. Follow up. Check in within a few days.

What parents can do at home

  • Sit with your child and understand their fears. Listen more than you lecture.
  • Do not leave them alone in the hardest moments. Suicidal thoughts grow stronger in loneliness and isolation.
  • Keep them engaged. If your hands are full, connect them to clubs, reading groups, sports or youth associations they enjoy.
  • Keep reassuring them. Let them know it will get better, and that you will be there.
  • Remember their brains are still developing. With support and treatment, young minds can heal and learn new ways of thinking.
  • Do not blame yourself. Focus your energy on getting help, not on guilt.

When telling parents may not be safe

If the teen discloses abuse at home, or you believe parents may harm them, contact the school's welfare lead, the Department of Social Welfare, or the police DOVVSU unit instead. In an emergency, call 112. The goal is always the child's safety.

Frequently asked questions

Should I tell a teen's parents if they say they are suicidal? In most cases, yes, because parents are key to getting care. Tell the teen first and involve them in how it is done. If the home is unsafe, go to child protection services instead.

How do I tell parents without them getting defensive? Start with shared care for the child, describe what you have seen without blame, explain it is a health issue, and arrive with clear next steps.

Does asking a teenager about suicide put the idea in their head? No. Several studies show asking directly does not increase suicidal thoughts and may bring relief.

Where can parents in Ghana get help for a suicidal teen? Call 0800 678 678 (free), visit any hospital or health centre, or speak with the school counsellor. In an emergency, call 112.

Sources: WHO, Suicide worldwide in 2021 · Citi Newsroom: MHA on suicide in Ghana · Psychiatric News on Gould et al. (2005) · Hennefield et al., JAACAP (2025)